Spirituality & Spending Money

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Spirituality and money are things that people think about frequently, however, I think most often in regards to the law of attraction and thus attracting money. The idea is that you attract what you focus on, so people think that if you think about money you’ll attract money. It doesn’t quite work that simply though. Many people hold negative underlying feelings towards money: e.g., “money is the root of all evil,” or, “people who have a lot of power and money are most often evil.” These two beliefs are simply not true. Money is just a physical manifestation of the energy that we give out and receive in order to get what we want in life (material goods and services). However, these core beliefs often block people from attracting money. Refocus your beliefs about money, and about why you deserve money. Either way, the law of attraction with regards to money is not the main focus of this post. Rather, I want to discuss how some people think that in order to be “spiritual” you need to spend lots of money on “spiritual things.”

I constantly meet many people who are new to their own spiritual awakening, which is really exciting and always makes me feel really happy inside! I was there once, and I felt that all the things that were happening to me were just some crazy manifestation of my imagination. (It wasn’t, and now I’m farther along on my journey and I’m reaching new levels of communicating with spirit, guides, and source, which is really fun!) I understand what it’s like to see colours differently for the first time, or to see energies flying around the room for the first time! It’s really exciting and feels surreal. It really is magic in the finest sense. There is so much magic and wonder in the world, and unfortunately it’s often overshadowed by politics and consumerism.

With that being said, spirituality isn’t about having the coolest deck of tarot cards, or the largest collection of tarot cards. It’s not about who has the most expensive, most colorful yoga pants. Spirituality isn’t about spending all of your money on psychic readings and becoming reliant on others telling you how to live your life. There are so many amazing intuitive coaches and teachers out there, and of course I encourage you to go have an experience with one that resonates with you, as it surely will be a mind-blowing experience. It’s important to connect with other like-minded people when you are beginning your spiritual journey, as often it can feel like a lonely road where you begin to wonder if there are others out there experiencing the same things as you. However, there comes a time in your spiritual journey where it’s important to become independent. It’s important to recognize if you are spending money frivolously on readings, books, objects, and the like rather than taking your spirituality into your own hands.

Recognizing your own spirituality is about empowering yourself. It’s not about relying on others to tell you whether you’re on the right path or not. You can know whether you’re on the right track just by merely going inward and feeling the sensations of your emotions. Your physical body is a guide for you to understand whether you are in alignment with your soul and your current path. You don’t need to spend lots of money to realize where you need to be and what you need to be doing at a specific time.

As I’ve come to understand the world around me in new ways, I’ve also come to realize that it’s okay to not know where you’re heading. Although, as I’ve developed certain intuitive abilities over the last few years, it is most often easier to see where I’m heading and what steps I need to take in order to get to where I want to be. The key elements in understanding your own path are going inward, becoming objective in the way you view your life (which is sometimes really hard), and most importantly, being PATIENT. Everything that you desire will come to you at some point if you take the steps necessary to attain your goals. However, knowing when and how to be patient is so important in unblocking your desires from coming to you. Also, recognizing that there are many different paths to getting to where you want to be is important too.

You don’t need to spend money on lots of external objects in order to become more psychic. We all have these abilities. Whether you were born with incredibly strong intuitive abilities, or you are new to developing them, you have the ability to do it yourself through meditation and intention. Simply ask your guides to connect with you. You will be able to discern for yourself what medium is best for you to connect with your guides and higher self. For example, since I am a writer, I find that writing and meditation are the best ways for me to connect with my guides. Whether I slip into a meditative state in the shower or while I brush my teeth, or I actually sit down and meditate for a little while, this is one of the best ways I have found to connect with my guides and higher self.

Another important note: since I, like many people, either turned off my intuitive abilities as a child or was not born with super strong senses (e.g., the ability to see spirit), it has taken me a few years to develop these abilities. So be patient with yourself, because if your intentions are clear and you do the inner work, you can definitely develop your intuition (and probably faster than you think!) Time is accelerating, and people are manifesting things in their lives at a faster rate than before! A veil is thinning, and people are waking up. So don’t think that you need to spend all of this money on spiritual things and knickknacks to be spiritual. Simply create a routine for yourself where you have a certain amount of time each day that you dedicate to connecting with your higher self.

It doesn’t matter how you connect, what matters is that you do so frequently!

Namaste. ❤

 

Photo credit: my lovely husband. 😉

 

 

29 Things I’ve learned in My 29 Years on Planet Earth

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Wow! I can’t believe I have just entered the final year of my twenties. I’ve had an interesting journey, to say the least! I am grateful for every experience that I’ve had up until this point because I know that every moment and experience has shaped who I’ve become.

I thought I’d just share 29 things I’ve learned in my 29 years of life. Here goes!

  1. Life is what you make it. If you choose to see things through a sad, grey lens, you’re going to live a sad, grey life. If you choose to see things through a rose-colored, happy lens, you will have a rosy and happy life.
  2. People will treat you how you let them treat you. If you don’t like how someone is treating you, don’t let them into your bubble. Who you spend your time with is entirely up to you, so don’t let anyone rain on your parade or waste your time. (If someone isn’t treating you well, they’re wasting your time).
  3. Kindness always wins. Love always wins. They just do. No matter what you think.
  4. If something feels wrong, let it go. Whether it’s a relationship, a job, or a project, if it’s not bringing you joy or you’ve outgrown it, it’s OKAY to let it go.
  5. Like attracts like. If you want to be loved, BE LOVE. If you want that job you’ve always been dreaming about, jump into the vortex and start doing things that you would be doing in the role you’re dreaming about. It will come.
  6. Playing isn’t just reserved for children. Getting in touch with my inner child and PLAYING is one of the best gifts I’ve given myself as an adult. Playing looks different to everyone. For me, playing looks like writing, laughing often, being goofy, and having dance parties in the bathroom (or with my husband in the kitchen). Also, I love chasing my cat around the house like a six year-old. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s fun!
  7. On that note, don’t take everything so seriously. Of course, it’s important to take your work seriously, to take global issues seriously, and to pay attention to the important things. It’s also important to let loose and have fun. (I don’t mean drinking and partying, but if that’s your thing, cool! No judgment).
  8. Try to keep your life a judgment-free zone. It’s hard. We’re human, and okay—sometimes we judge. However, I feel that we’re too hard on each other and ourselves. Don’t be such a tough critic; whether you’re judging yourself or someone else, step back, chill, and make a note of where your judgment is coming from. Ain’t nobody got time to be a judgey budgie.
  9. People say, “Failure isn’t an option!” Uhm, yeah, actually. It is. We all fail sometimes, and that is okay. Without failure, we wouldn’t understand how to become successful. We wouldn’t feel SUPER proud of our accomplishments if things went perfectly 100% of the time. Failure challenges us to become better human beings, to become better at honing our gifts and talents, and it teaches us what we do and do not want for our lives. You can use failure as a tool for learning and growth.
  10. Don’t listen to others regarding your life path. If you have a dream or a goal in mind and you’ve got that internal voice just telling you to stay steady on your path, don’t let naysayers tell you to choose a different path. Who cares if your path doesn’t seem clear to them? Who cares if your ideas are “too out there”? Who cares if people wished that you did something else instead? Not me! Neither should you, because nobody knows you better than you know yourself. PS- Don’t tell others what you wish they would do. It is SUPER INSULTING. It says to the person, “What you’re doing with your life isn’t good enough.” RUDE. If it doesn’t directly affect your life, then it’s not your business.
  11. Treat your body right. Eat well; sleep well; do yoga or exercise; go outside; and mostly eat and sleep well. Oh, and alcohol generally makes me feel like balls, so that’s also something I’ve learned in my 29 years on planet Earth.
  12. A missed opportunity was simply an opportunity that wasn’t for you. There will be more and more opportunities for you, so it’s okay to miss an opportunity.
  13. Don’t compare your life to others’ lives. Everyone has a different path; so to compare your life to another person’s life is just going to drive you crazy. Who cares what so and so is doing on Instagram? Everyone has good days and everyone has bad days. Everyone.
  14. You DO have control over your emotional reactions. Nobody can make you feel bad. You’re in charge of that.
  15. Dealing with family can be difficult sometimes. It’s okay to take a step back and breathe.
  16. It’s okay to outgrow people and move on with your life.
  17. Travel is essential for learning about yourself and the world around you. I love books but you just can’t learn some things from books. Experiential learning is important.
  18. Reading is SO important. Your brain will literally shrink if you don’t get enough DHA and don’t read enough. Expand your mind, consciousness, and life. Also, there is so much secret wisdom in philosophy books that will let you in on all of the secrets of the universe. Philosophy isn’t boring and it’s not SUPER difficult to comprehend. It just takes time to learn and to develop critical thinking skills.
  19. You also have all the secret wisdom and knowledge the universe holds right within you. Yeah, seriously! We’re all psychic, universal beings who have the ability to channel information that most people scoff at. Years down the road, people won’t be scoffing anymore, because humans are waking up and perspectives are changing. We’re not all that is.
  20. If you want something, just go and get it. If you want it bad enough, you’ll make it happen.
  21. A plant-based diet is the best diet for my body. Eating plants makes me feel good and keeps me happy. Plants are high vibrational foods, so when you consume life, it gives you life. Your body is your temple. (I had to sneak it in there). It doesn’t matter what you look like. What matters is how you feel.
  22. I learned to receive and give Reiki. Reiki is life-force (universal) energy that can be channeled to heal emotional and physical wounds. It really works. Look into it!
  23. Gratitude is seriously the best attitude. The more you are grateful for what you have, the more (positivity) you attract into your life.
  24. Learn from your mistakes. Write your experiences down, evaluate them, and don’t make the same mistakes again and again. (I mean, unless that’s also part of your journey. As I mentioned in #8, ain’t nobody judging here!)
  25. Love people unconditionally. Even when it seems impossible to love someone because they might have hurt you or someone else, you can still muster some love and send it their way. Honestly. The world needs more of that.
  26. Forgiveness is essential in moving forward. You can choose to forgive anyone or any situation. Forgiveness IS a choice, and you can choose it.
  27. Alone time is essential for personal development.
  28. It’s okay for others to have opinions that don’t match yours. It’s okay if people don’t understand your perspective. At the end of the day, that’s part of what makes Earth colorful and interesting.
  29. Love yourself unconditionally.

 

That’s it! Happy Sunday.

Namaste. ❤

Self-Care Sunday

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It’s wintertime and sometimes it’s easy to let self-care fall by the wayside. I’m not going to lie— I definitely let that happen a little bit this winter, so I decided it was time to go treat myself to a pedicure. (Ain’t nobody got time for Shrek toes!) Self-care is different for everyone, but I just thought I’d share some of my favorite ways to care for myself and make sure that I’m feeling like a goddess. (Why not feel like a goddess every damn day?) For me, self-care isn’t just about manis and pedis, it’s so much more than that!

Treat Your Body Right

Consume foods that nourish your body. Sometimes in the winter, all we want to eat is comfort food. I’ve been guilty of making homemade vegan mac n’ cheez lately, but it’s important to keep eating those delicious greens. Even if it’s cold outside, remember to drink your green juices and smoothies.

Or, if you’re not in the mood for a green juice, one of my favourite juice combos that just gets me in the most high vibin’ mood is the following:

  • Carrots
  • Beets
  • Ginger
  • Lemon

It’s so simple, it’s not time-consuming, and it’s absolutely delicious! My body always feels amazing afterwards and honestly I never get sick when I drink veggies like this. Consuming lemon juice is a great way to keep your body alkaline, while ginger is great for boosting your immune system (and it’s also really good for digestion). Beets are great for detoxifying your body, increasing blood flow, and keeping your liver clean. They’re also a great source of minerals, so make sure you throw some beets in your juice! Carrots are rich in vitamin A, B6, K1, biotin, and potassium. It’s no wonder that I feel like bouncing off the walls when I have this juice! Vitamin B6 is known for being an energy enhancer; so if you feel fatigued or sluggish this winter, incorporate this juice into your life. You won’t regret it!

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Healing Techniques & Body Work

Regardless of what your belief systems are about the new age hippie lifestyle, treat yourself to some bodywork. Many of us put excessive strain on our bodies daily and don’t take the time to show our bodies gratitude for all that they do for us. Or, perhaps you sit in an office all day and have developed poor posture. Go take a yoga class or find a fascial stretch therapist to help you find proper posture and ways to carry your body so that you’re not aging your body before its time.

I really love Reiki (duh, I’m a Reiki practitioner), so I like to treat myself to a healing session from someone else once in a while. Reiki is a form of energy healing that involves healing from the inside. Basically, Reiki can be understood as universal (life force) energy. In short, a Reiki practitioner will connect with Reiki energy, source, or however you would like to understand it, and hold space while channeling Reiki energy through you to realign and balance your chakras (the main energy centres in your body). Reiki can feel different for everyone, but usually it will feel like your practitioner’s hands are heating up as he or she scans your body and allows the Reiki energy to flow through you. I always feel really rejuvenated and more balanced after a healing session. It’s definitely something that I would recommend to anyone!

Pedicures and Reflexology are also really wonderful treatments if you’re looking to pamper yourself on a cold winter day. We often don’t give our feet enough credit for all that they do for us. They get us everywhere we need to go, they carry the weight of our bodies, they allow us to stand and maintain balance, dance, and the like. Sadly, our feet are often our least favorite part of our bodies! Give your feet some love! You’ll feel so amazing after, I promise! (Side note: make sure you go to a clean treatment centre. Foot fungus is a real thing, and it is not pleasant. If you step inside and it doesn’t look clean, turn around and find somewhere else to go. For real!)

Whether you’re in need of a massage, Reiki, reflexology, a manicure, or pedicure, treat yourself to some bodywork. You deserve it! If it’s not in your budget, find practitioners in your area and inquire about doing an energy exchange or trade. Private practitioners are usually open to trading so don’t be afraid to ask. Self-care is important!

Bathing & Meditation

Meditation can be done anywhere at any time. Whether you’re on your lunch break at work, in your home first thing in the morning, or in your bathtub, close your eyes and settle your mind. Bring awareness to your breath and hold space for you to simply exist in the moment. Let all of your worries go. Stop thinking about politics, stop thinking about your job, your kids, a problem you’re dealing with, and just be. Be present for at least a few moments, and then you can continue with the rest of your day.

Bathing is so important. (Obviously! We couldn’t run around in public smelling like we live in 17th Century England!) However, take time to put effort into the way in which you bathe. Make it a ritual. Start or end your day with a luxurious bath. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man, a woman, or anywhere in between. Bath time is not simply reserved for ladies! Bath bombs are all the rage right now. They are a great way to add to your bathing experience, as they are often infused with beautiful flowers and essential oils. I would highly recommend reading the ingredients when you’re choosing your bath fizzies, as some of them aren’t necessarily made with all-natural ingredients. My general rule is, if I can’t pronounce the ingredient or if I know it’s not natural), I won’t put it in my mouth or on my body. I really don’t like using bath bombs that are super colourful because that means they were probably made with food colouring (which isn’t the healthiest choice). To each their own though! You can also add Epsom salts, candles, essential oils of your choice, and relaxation music to make your bathing experience tranquil and luxurious. You seriously deserve it!

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Anyway, those are some of my favourite ways to care for myself. If you haven’t given Reiki or bath bombs a try, be sure to! These are just little ways to make your life more enjoyable during the winter season.

Namaste. ❤

Protecting Yourself from Psychic and Spiritual Attacks

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Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation in which we have to deal with toxic people. I’ve recently written about this, as it’s something that has come up for me a few times throughout my life, and I’m certain that most people have come up against this issue at some point. With that being said, if you find yourself in a vulnerable situation, and perhaps you feel stuck in the energy of the person who is attacking you, there are some simple things you can do to protect yourself from being attacked.

Psychic and spiritual attacks can look and feel differently depending on how close you are to the person and situation, and whether or not the person is conscious of the fact that they are attacking you. If the person is unaware, perhaps the attack may manifest itself in outward situations, such as verbal attacks, arguments, or any confrontation that drains your energy. The person who is of a low vibration, with intentions of hurting you emotionally can perhaps even attract lower vibrational energies that may be unsettling for you to be around. There are many reasons why people attract lower energies, however if you can sense that there are lower energies around you due to psychic attacks, you can protect yourself. It is your right as a human being to protect yourself, and if you say that energy has to leave your space, by law it has to leave your space. No ifs, ands, or buts.

Tip #1:

Surround yourself with white light. Imagine that there is a tunnel of white light beaming down from the heavens or sky, and visualize it beaming all the way down to earth, through your crown chakra, and down a tube that runs through your spine out through your feet. Once you’ve visualized this tube of white light running through the core of your being, expand that white light through the rest of your body, and imagine cracks that allow the divine light to pour out of your body in order to fill the space that you are in. We are light beings, and it is your right to step into the light and hold space for love and light only. Again, it is your choice and your right to do this. If it takes you more than once to visualize this, that is okay. Visualization can take practice. Don’t beat yourself up if it takes you a few times. Just make sure that beautiful white light is flowing through every cell in your body and out into the world around you.

Tip #2:

 Once you’ve surrounded yourself in white light, create a bubble or orb of that light around you and hold onto that space. You are safe in your bubble, and no one can enter that space unless you allow them to enter it. Set an intention that only high vibrational beings and guides who have your highest good at heart-mind can enter your space (if you wish for anyone to enter your space at all).

Tip #3:

This one I’ve found to be very helpful, and it is something that a friend of mine suggested to me. Light a white candle in your space. White is the color or energy of purification and cleansing. Fire is also a cleansing element, so the two combined are a powerful magic. You will feel the energy in your space shift as soon as you light a white candle and set an intention for any lower energies to leave your space. Lighting a white candle is also a good alternative if you don’t have any sage or cedar to burn. This brings me to my next tip.

Tip #4:

Burn sage. You can find California white sage or Buffalo sage at most new age shops and even at some health food stores. If there aren’t any new age shops in your area, it is easy enough to order some online. Burning sage, or smudging is a Native American and Native Canadian cleansing tradition. This tradition has been used for years as a way to start the day, open a talking circle, connect with Great Spirit or Mother Earth, and to cleanse any impurities or energies that people wish to wash away. Cedar is also a powerful cleansing aid, and it can be found very easily right in your own backyard. Simply bundle it and let it dry out a bit. Your space should be cleared on a regular basis anyway, however if you feel that someone has attacked you physically, verbally, or psychically, definitely smudge your space and clear your aura. Once you’ve smudged, you’ll feel the denseness of the previous lower energy has lifted and cleared. I like to smudge my eyes as well, and to set an intention that I would like to see things clearly for what they really are.

Tip #5:

Another tip that a friend of mine suggested that has been really helpful in protecting my sacred space is to use salt. My partner and I just moved back from the UK recently, and so we’re staying in someone else’s home until the springtime when we move into our new space. As a result, we are not able to clear the energy by using sage as often as we normally would in our own home. So, (as strange as this may sound), I’ve poured a line of salt along the floor where the door separates our bedroom from the hallway. I’ve actually found this to be really helpful, as our room is no longer active at night.

The house that we’re currently staying in is quite active, however we know that the energy isn’t connected to us. Therefore, I continue to set intentions and state that all lower energies are to stay 50 feet away from us and are not welcome in our space. I surround myself in white light, listen to happy music, and dance, and I find that this really helps. Setting an intention for lower energies to stay far away from you will help immensely. You can tell them aloud verbally, you can write it down (I find that spell-ing it out is highly effective), or you can tell them in your mind as well. Generally I find saying my intentions out loud and writing them down is very helpful.

I hope this helps you, and if you have any questions about cleansing your space or protecting yourself from psychic or spiritual attacks, please feel free to message me.

Remember, you are a being of love and light and it is your right to step into the light and stay there.

Namaste.

Dealing with Difficult Family Relationships

“Family” is an interesting word. Sometimes it’s difficult to define, as it holds so many different connotations for everyone. Family can mean a warm embrace at the door after a long day at work, playing with your children before bed, or snuggling up with your partner and your pet. But for some people, the word “family” brings up resentment and anxiety when it is uttered. Not everyone has a positive relationship with all of their family members, or, perhaps there may be something that occurred within one of your family units years ago that has left a scar on your heart. Whatever the case may be for you, if you have someone in your life that is difficult to deal with or perhaps who doesn’t understand you the way you feel you deserve to be understood, I have some helpful tips to keep in mind for the future.

Everyone is on their own unique path and you are not obligated to understand their journey.

This concept works on a two-way basis. You are not obligated to understand the journey of everyone in your household, just as they are not obligated to understand your journey. This is one that I personally struggle with as an artist and a healer. Every time I interact with my family, I find myself longing for them to understand those aspects of me, or to ask me more questions about spirituality, intuition, health, writing and the like. However, like you, I have to keep in mind that they are not obligated to take interest in the things that I do in my spare time. Everyone comes to this planet with their own blueprint, plan, destiny, (whatever you want to call it—you could even just boil it down to interests and passions). Not everyone is going to be interested in the same thing as you are. If we were all the same, life would be really monotonous.

If someone in your family just reeks of toxicity, take space from them. Space is necessary in all relationships, so don’t feel guilty for taking space or even separating yourself from a relationship completely if need be.

 Many relationships are toxic, however some people don’t necessarily have the coping skills or awareness to realize that they are in a toxic relationship. It’s unfortunate as an outsider, to see people repeating the same patterns over and over like a skipping record, however, if they choose to stay, it is on some level, their choice. With that being said, it doesn’t have to be your choice, and if a relationship is not working for you and you find that every time you leave a specific person’s presence, you feel like garbage, consider taking time away from that relationship. Often, we put the idea of “family” (and for many years, the nuclear family) on a pedestal. We don’t have to maintain relationships that aren’t working. I understand that the thought of letting go of a family member is daunting. “What will others think?” is often a question that comes up for people. At the end of the day though, would you let a stranger, a coworker, or a friend treat you like garbage over and over? Probably not. So don’t let a title determine who you should share your time, energy, and space with. You need to do what works best for you.

If you feel that the relationship is worth saving but you are at your wit’s end, seek counselling.

 Some people are afraid to admit that they (or their relationship) is operating on a rocky framework. Let’s be real: we ALL have mental health issues at one point or another in our lives. For some reason, the idea of needing help or experiencing natural human emotions has been scoffed at for years. It has only been within the last ten years or so that people have started to look differently at mental health, counseling, and the like. It is OKAY to go to therapy to get an objective opinion on what you’re experiencing. I heavily encourage it, actually! And, if you can’t afford counseling, perhaps talk to someone you trust about what you’re experiencing. It’s always really helpful to bounce ideas off of others, as long as you are being respectful of their boundaries as well. If someone is going to give you their energy by lending an ear and helping you sort out your problems, don’t be an energy vampire and take up all of their time. Run your issue regarding your family member by them, talk it out, and then go home and journal about it. Sleep on it. Evaluate your situation, and then determine whether the relationship is worth saving, or whether you should leave your baggage behind. It sounds harsh, but nobody should remain in any relationship that is toxic: family or not. Side note: there is also lots of publically funded therapy in most cities. If you have a family physician, you can always just book an appointment for a talk. The idea of going to your family doctor for a life chat might also seem strange, but if you feel comfortable with it, chances are that your physician will approach you with compassion and be able to point you in a positive direction.

When you separate yourself from toxic family members, it is often helpful to start a new ritual or routine that encompasses healing techniques. Journal, exercise, write poetry, write music, and most importantly change your thought patterns by creating a positive internal dialogue with yourself.

 Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the ways in which our families drive us bananas, that our inner voice runs rampant and tells us about all the ways that we stink or aren’t good enough. It’s time to tell that inner voice to behave! We are all able to rewire our thought patterns and train ourselves to have positive thoughts. An exercise that I found to be so simple yet so profound, is standing in front of a mirror every morning and telling myself that I love myself. Looking at your own reflection and saying, “I love you” or, “I love me,” sounds cheesy and strange, but it really works wonders in rewiring your brain to have positive thoughts about the Self. I started this morning ritual when I was about eighteen or nineteen years old and my manager at the time had asked me, “Little girl, why don’t you love yourself?” At that point in my life, I don’t even think I was consciously aware of the fact that I wasn’t unconditionally in love with myself, yet my older and more experienced boss could see it clearly. I think that many people at that age are unaware of the fact that they don’t love themselves. It’s so strange to think that often human beings actually need to train themselves into self-love.

Do our families have an impact on whether or not we love ourselves deeply?

I think so. I also think that the media (the music we listen to, the shows we watch online or on TV, the news, etc.) heavily dictate how we feel about ourselves. However, it has been shown that when fetuses are developing in the womb, they feel and take on the emotional state of their mother. In turn, when they are born and begin to grow into children, they begin to learn the behavioural patterns and emotional patterns of their parents. From these teachings, children start to act out or mimic behaviours of their parents perhaps unconsciously. So, if our parents have insecurities about their financial situation, express anxiety toward one another, or have a “woe is me” attitude, chances are that we will take on those characteristics to some degree. Luckily, many of us begin to make other connections in school and other social settings where we are introduced to other families, lifestyles, and behaviours and so we begin to learn how to discern negativity from positivity.

Dealing with Past Trauma and Resentment

 At the end of the day, most of us have experienced a situation that has brought on a sense of resentment toward someone (family member or not). Whether the situation was serious, traumatic, or a silly argument that has led to a drawn out withdrawal, feelings of resentment always leave the person experiencing them with a bit of muddiness in their aura. Whether you realize it and believe it or not, forgiveness is always the best option. Even when you feel that someone has hurt you to your absolute core, that what they have done is absolutely unforgiveable, you always have the choice and the power to choose forgiveness. In fact, forgiveness is the best gift that you can give yourself. Forgiveness is all about YOU—not them. (Of course in many cases it is about both parties, however I find that the more traumatic the situation, the forgiveness is more so about the person who was injured).

With all of this being said, I hope you found this to be helpful, and if you ever have questions or need someone to reach out to, please feel free to message me.

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What Do You Really Want for Your Life?

So many people leave high school and immediately find themselves pursuing college or university education. Often, young people wind up asking questions such as, “Is this really what I want for my life?” Yet they continue on the same path, afraid of quitting something they’ve started even if it doesn’t feel right for them. As we grow up and are enculturated by our parents, educators, employers, and the media, we are often taught not to quit what we start. However, sometimes quitting something that feels wrong is the best way to find what you truly love doing. The idea of not finishing what we start is often scoffed at, yet sometimes we need to try a few different avenues before we find exactly what it is that we want for our lives. Sometimes, feeling out a career path and letting it go if it’s not the right fit is better than getting knee-deep in a job that is highly stressful and unfulfilling. So often I hear baby boomers saying things like, “Another day, another dollar,” or, “money doesn’t grow on trees. You have to work hard to make a living.” Or, my personal favorite: “Kids these days think they’re entitled to everything. They think they don’t have to work hard in life to get what they want.” When I hear things like this, I cringe. I cringe because I don’t agree with them. I cringe because that is the mentality that keeps individuals stuck in positions where they are merely “working for the man” and building someone else’s dreams for minimum wage and no benefits. It is this same mentality that had me stuck working toward a goal that wasn’t my own. For some reason, many people saw me as an educator, a teacher, someone who could lead young people in a very specific direction. To some degree, I suppose that does make sense, as I enjoy helping people and I really love to highlight others’ talents and gifts. However, just because I possess certain qualities does not mean that I was meant to be a teacher in the normal education system, and yet that is the career path that I pursued because I listened to others.

My advice to young people is to try different things out. Don’t rush into post-secondary school just because that is what society tells you to do. If you’re not sure about who you are yet, that is OKAY. At seventeen or eighteen years old, it’s perfectly normal to not know what you want for your life. More and more, people in their late twenties and thirties are waking up and realizing that the educational path they pursued isn’t necessarily the route that they want to stay on for the rest of their lives. Trust me, waking up and realizing that you don’t believe in something that you’ve invested seven years and thousands of dollars into is frightening, disappointing, and overwhelming. However, I think that it’s better to switch up your career earlier on in life rather than waiting until you’re midway through raising a family and paying a mortgage. Go to universities and ask if you can sit in on some lectures for free to see if you actually enjoy the subject matter that you’re thinking of studying for the long haul. If you’re between secondary and post-secondary school, ask employers if you can partner with them and learn the ropes of a particular industry before you decide to pursue a fifty thousand dollar education in business or marketing. If being a teacher seems interesting to you at nineteen years old, but you’re not quite sure if it’s the right career path, ask teachers if you can sit in on lessons, look at their lesson plans and learn how much work goes into them, and volunteer teach with them for an extended period of time before you make the plunge and go to teachers’ college only to realize that the politics and workload aren’t worth the stress. Side note: everyone is different, and teaching is highly rewarding for many people. If I write about teaching and there is a slight negative undertone, it comes from my own personal experience in the field, and of course, my own personal bias. I see the flaws and I see the benefits, however, that discussion is for another time.

Also, the job market today is a tricky beast. Perhaps you are more of an entrepreneur than you give yourself credit for. Have you ever thought of starting your own business? A self-made millionaire recently said something very important to me. He looked me square in the eyes and said, “Success isn’t only reserved for some people and not others. You have to be a risk-taker. The greater the risk, the greater the reward.” So, if you’re a young person who is perhaps ready to start their post-secondary school career, or maybe you’ve just finished a program and you’re not quite sure what to do next, think about (and most importantly) feel out all of your options. Take a break, evaluate and reevaluate where you are and where you want to be years down the road. Who are you, and who do you think you’ll become? Really, we can’t always predict these things about ourselves, otherwise we wouldn’t have surprises in life, however, know that you’re bound to change at some point and maybe taking a pause in life will help when it comes to deciding on your career. Try different avenues, don’t be afraid to volunteer your time, and always ask experts questions. Never be afraid to ask questions. Own yourself and your personal power, and go get what you want!

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Truth Time: My Vegan Slip-up

Hi y’all! I just thought I’d write a quick update. Last week I posted something I wrote about not wanting to change others and not imposing our belief systems on others. I also mentioned that I had been craving dairy, which is something that has really only happened a few times in my six years of being plant-based. So, here we go: confession time! This week I hadn’t been feeling like myself. I’ve been my typical happy self, but for some reason I couldn’t kick this craving for dairy. I probably need more fats in my diet. I eat tons of avocados, but still—I think I need to get on top of things a little more. The transition of moving back to Canada has been a bit intense, and I really just needed to go easy on myself emotionally. With that being said, I might have made a few excuses this week to eat dairy. Yeah—I’m not proud of it, and I’m definitely feeling it now, but I’m human and we make mistakes. I think in the plant-based community it’s important to be transparent about what we really eat. So many people claim to be vegan and are often preachy about it. (I know, I’ve been there). At the same time, I KNOW that I can’t be the only one who has slipped up. I think we need to support each other and reassure each other when we do slip up. There are so many YouTube videos out there of vegans bashing other vegans for so many reasons. C’mon guys, it’s time to be real. We’re humans and we’re all learning, making mistakes, and hopefully growing from them.

Yesterday I was out doing some Christmas shopping and running errands after work. I hadn’t really eaten enough earlier that day. (I had a huge bowl of whole-wheat pasta, some celery, and earlier that day I had oatmeal sans walnuts, and toast with peanut butter). Okay, my meals weren’t too bad, but I normally put nuts in my oatmeal and have guac on toast as well. I also usually make smoothies, but I just didn’t have the time yesterday and I let it all fall by the wayside. So, while I was out I decided to pop into Goodness Me! Natural Food Market and grab the dreaded and oh-so-heavy and fatty Mac n’ Cheese. I just couldn’t get my mind off it! As I scooped the steamy, fatty gooey-ness into the cup I had a moment where I thought to myself, “I am seriously going to pay for this later.” … I could have scooped it all back into the pot, but I didn’t. I closed up the container and headed over to the cashier. I thought to myself, “I don’t think I can call myself a vegan anymore.” Then I also thought to myself: “No one here knows I’m vegan! I’m invincible! I’ll be fine!”

Fast forward an hour later: I’ve already finished remorsefully shovelling mac n’ cheese into my mouth in the company of my cat (because really, who is he going to tell?) At this point, I’m now starting to feel the aftermath of my poor choice. I’m cramping. My stomach is gurgling. I need to go to the bathroom, but I can’t. What have I done to myself? Then my husband comes home from work. He’s in his usual jolly, happy-go-lucky mood, and I’m trying my best to fake that I don’t feel the need to call an ambulance. I’m not even exaggerating. Last night I felt like I had been hit by a transport truck, just because I decided to make one silly choice and eat the damn mac n’ cheese! Message received, body.

However, I still stand by what I wrote in my previous post. I will not preach to others about their dietary choices. I will remain plant-based, as I realize that I am quite obviously lactose intolerant (as most people are by nature). I will continue my journey in silence, and I will educate others when they wish to learn more.

15541547_10156277833312524_8283273460102967663_nI am grateful for my experience last night. Much like the conversations I had last week, this was a humbling event. I was ashamed when I told my husband about what I had done, but then I thought about it a bit more. I’m human. I make mistakes like everybody else. What I learned from this mistake is that, for my body and personal health, if I am craving fats, dairy and animal fats are not the answer. I’ve also learned not to let myself go for too long without proper meals. (That’s not something I normally do, but it happened yesterday and the results were not pleasant). I’ve also learned that I need to have more self-control. There are always better alternatives for your body. Listen to your body and its needs. Maybe you’re not plant-based and your body is craving something. What I would suggest is to look up what your craving means. When we have cravings our bodies are telling us that we are lacking something essential. If you’re craving a big greasy pizza, what your body probably needs is carbs. Just carb up on healthy carbs! Eat some delicious root veggies or fruits. Don’t go for the fast food. Homemade whole foods are generally the safest bet, (whether you’re vegan or not). I honestly don’t usually have cravings, so what this whole experience has reminded me is that I need to get back to paying more attention to what and how frequently I am eating. The best part about nutrition is that there is always more to learn!