Keeping close-knit Relationships when Technology is insidiously unraveling Human Connection

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Photo Credit: Bekki Draper @ http://draper-photo.com/about/

Normally I post on my blog on Sundays, however this weekend I decided not to. Instead, I went for a hike out in nature with my partner and a few friends and I’ve got to say: it was really refreshing, grounding, and made me feel more connected.

Last week on Facebook I posted a status asking my friends and acquaintances if anyone else was feeling disconnected due to the use of technology (despite the idea that it is supposed to make us feel “more connected”). I was surprised by how many people responded and agreed that they felt the same. Some people even admitted to feeling lonely. Honestly, I don’t like to admit it, but I agree. I mean, I am happier in my relationship than I’ve ever been in any other relationship, I have amazing friends, and I love my new job! I shouldn’t have any complaints, right? … I’m not complaining. I am just making an observation based on my own human experience and condition. I am looking back at a time (that I’m so grateful to have experienced!) in which cell phones were not the bane of our existence, in which the Internet was still unknown to the average person, and we still went outside everyday. Perhaps I’m getting a bit nostalgic, and perhaps it sounds naïve, but I miss the connection that people had with each other. The real connection, where people didn’t swipe left and right to determine if someone was “worthy” of spending an hour with in the middle of the night, or meeting them at a bar for a cheap thrill.

I miss the days when we knew what our friends were feeling because we had to actually call them or go over to their houses to find out that they were pissed off at us, or happy, or surprised, or sad. I miss the days without emojis because in those days, we read body language and facial expressions, and differing intonations in people’s voices. We made phone calls and talked for hours. We rode our bikes to our friend’s houses. We played street hockey and organized neighbourhood theatre productions. We broke the rules. We made new ones. We snuck into our friends’ garages and stole ice cream bars out of their parents’ freezers. We built real relationships. We actually had the courage to break each other’s hearts. And it broke our hearts in turn. We felt deeply, whether we were consciously aware of our actions or not. We felt the aftermath of them. We didn’t just fall off the face of the planet when a relationship wasn’t working for us anymore. We faced our problems head on.

I’m not saying we don’t feel things now, but I think we feel things differently. Of course I’m generalizing, however I believe that to some degree we hide behind our technology, and I think that it creates a separation between us and our friends, family, and communities. I think that it fosters anxiety disorders and reinforces the idea that making plans and not showing up is okay. It has become “socially acceptable.” And don’t get me wrong: I’m guilty of all of this too. Perhaps I’m writing this to take accountability for the times when I’ve disconnected from others out of sheer laziness or convenience. I think though, for the most part, I’m writing this because I feel like western society is starting to feel like a strange sci-fi story. If you haven’t read “The Pedestrian” by Ray Bradbury, I highly recommend it. It discusses a man who is targeted for being “out of character” simply because he has maintained his connection to the outer world by going for walks every night. Everyone else sits inside their homes on their “viewing screens” and the outside world has this sort of post-apocalyptic feeling, in which the streets are empty and there is no human activity for miles. He is criminalized simply for doing something (walking) that is natural to our humanity. Keep in mind that this story was published in 1951. It’s a bit of an alarming “prediction,” if you want to call it that. I often go outside and see the emptiness of the streets and “The Pedestrian” is one of the first things that comes to mind. My parents’ have had the same next-door neighbours since I was in college. They had their first child when I was in my early twenties. They have since had another, and I think they’re about six and eight years-old, however I’m not entirely sure. I have rarely seen any of them outside in the years that they’ve lived beside my parents. I think they have a dog, but I never see the dog outside. I think they have children? I think they have a dog? Honestly, there are no signs of children or a dog, other than seeing them on a VERY rare occasion.

How can we remedy this? Is it possible to reverse the effects that technology has had on how we socialize and interact with others in society? I propose that we simply take more time away from our “viewing screens,” which can be difficult depending on the line of work you’re in. For example, I am online all day because I’m a content writer. However, I’ve stopped spending so much time on my computer after work. Unless I’m writing creatively for my own pleasure, I don’t really open my computer anymore on the days that I’m working. I don’t think that’s quite enough though. I think that we need to extend this further and actually go out of our way to make more plans with people, and actually follow through with them. (I have definitely been guilty of not following through with plans, and I know that it needs to stop). I’ve noticed, within my own experience, that the idea of going out can induce a kind of anxiety that is debilitating, and it’s something that I need to work through. I am also sensitive to others’ energy, and that can sometimes be overwhelming, however it’s not an excuse to stay inside and become antisocial. I don’t want to see future generations (and our current generations) going through life without socializing, having fun, and knowing the real meaning of connectivity—not just some BS social media nonsensical notion of “connectivity.” I believe that we need to create real social circles again and have gatherings the way we used to, as opposed to the virtual social circles that we have online. We are social creatures, and it’s been proven that we can’t last very long on our own. I mean, some people can, but I don’t think the average person can. We need meaningful relationships with each other and the world around us to sustain happy and healthy lives. Perhaps these ideas are primitive when thinking about how we exist in our world today, but I really think that sometimes going back to the basics isn’t such a bad idea. Sometimes we really shouldn’t fix things that aren’t broken.

All I know is, that hike that I went on yesterday with friends did a lot of good for me. I felt happy, rejuvenated, and alive!

What are your thoughts? Is there a way to remedy this? Do we need a remedy for the way that we interact with one another? Are we doomed to experience the reality that Ray Bradbury predicted for us? Is it already happening and we’re just unaware? Can we restore the ways in which we used to connect with others, or have apps like Tinder completely destroyed how we define our relationships and expectations? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Developing a Positive Relationship with Yourself is Essential for Having a Successful Relationship with Someone Else

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When I was younger I used to flitter around from relationship to relationship, wondering why they all failed at some point. A large part of it was that we were all young and growing in different directions, and another part of it was, I didn’t have a positive relationship with myself yet. My first relationship started in high school, and let’s face it: rarely do high school romances last beyond college. Mine did not, and in fact it didn’t even see the end of high school. I then found myself in a few other relationships afterwards that didn’t work out for various reasons, but most of them had something in common: I was looking for external validation that others could not simply give me. Why was I looking for external validation? Well, I’m sure we all do this to some degree, in some aspect of our lives, however I simply chalk my experience up to not having spent enough time developing myself and learning about who I was and what I wanted.

Spending time alone is essential for personal growth. In those silent moments in which no one else’s energy is impeding your space is when you discover how beautiful and gifted you really are. The quiet moments are when you have the freedom to discover what kind of reality and existence you would like to have. Often, when we are young and undeveloped emotionally and intellectually, we rely on others to tell us that we are beautiful or even what they think we should be doing. However, the beauty of being alone lies in the realization that you can simply ask yourself what you want, and your heart will tell you. The difference between someone else’s answer and the answer that your heart gives you is that your heart knows the truth. Your heart knows your truth. No one else knows your truth the way your heart does.

When I finally broke free of all of the different relationships (that were essentially different manifestations of the same patterns and lessons), I realized how enjoyable it was to spend time alone in my own energy. I had no one to answer to, I could do whatever I wanted at any time, and I had more time and energy to discover aspects of myself that I didn’t realize were there. It was when I left my last relationship before I met my husband that I realized my own personal power and strength. It was after I left my last relationship and was approached by another person who wanted a relationship with me that I empowered myself by saying, “No. I need space and time to be with myself.” Before this point, I always thought I had to be a “Yes person” when it came to relationships. I always thought that being in relationships would provide me with love and emotional support. It wasn’t until I was in my last relationship that I realized that the best way to love and support myself would be to let go of the relationship I had outgrown. Letting go of that last relationship was the best gift I have ever given myself. In turn, I was able to release toxic patterns that I had been repeating for years. For example, I learned that external validation wouldn’t bring me love, or anything for that matter. Rather, going inward and finding a strong sense of purpose, self-esteem, and self-love were truly the most fulfilling ways to develop myself and come to have a meaningful and positive relationship with the self.

In order to have a healthy relationship with another person, you have to develop a positive relationship with yourself first. This concept seems like common sense, however I am continually surprised when I bump into people who remind me of my past self. So many people don’t realize that when they’re searching for a relationship or love, what they most probably need is to simply develop a deeper and more meaningful relationship with themselves. I honestly believe that you can’t have a healthy relationship with another person when you’re simply half of a whole. When we think of the term, “my other half,” or even the saying, “my better half,” I think we’ve got it all wrong. I think that by investing in the idea that our other half is out there, we’re diminishing the idea that we can be whole individuals on our own. Two people who feel as though they are whole and complete before they enter a relationship are more likely to have a positive, successful, and long lasting relationship than two people who enter a relationship feeling as though they are missing something simply because they are single.

One trend I’ve noticed as I’ve started getting older is that more and more young people are remaining single for a longer period of time before they commit to being in a relationship. I honestly think that is so important! I’ve spoken with many people about why they choose to remain single until they’re older, and there are many different reasons. Some people are afraid to be in a committed relationship for fear of hurting another person or fear of being hurt. In other words, they’re afraid to commit because someone better suited to their personality or interests might come along. Another reason, (and I think this has been the main reason), is that people are busy developing themselves as individuals and they want to attain certain goals, finish postsecondary education, start their career, or just simply find themselves completely before they commit to being in a romantic relationship. I really respect this, and if I could do it all over again, I definitely think I would have spent many more years as a single person, developing different aspects of my life and myself on my own terms. Don’t get me wrong: I’m grateful for every experience I’ve had up to this point, because they have helped me become a strong, experienced, and more cautious human being.

What are ways that you develop yourself as an individual? Do you feel like a whole person? If not, start exploring new hobbies, interests, and asking yourself questions such as: What do I want for my life? How can I become more fulfilled? Maybe it’s time to let go of a relationship that isn’t serving you anymore and go on a solo adventure to get in touch with yourself again.

 

 

The Universe Sends You What You Need When You Need It Most

At some points in our lives, we find that we’re stuck between a rock and a hard place. Life can either be overwhelmingly busy or really stagnant. Usually when we’re in the midst of an overwhelmingly busy period, we wish we could just catch a break. We wish that the universe would just cut us some slack and give us a day off, a holiday, or some time to slow down and get back in touch with ourselves. However, when that time comes and the universe has heard our demands for more “me time,” we often end up feeling stuck in a rut rather than grateful for the time we’ve been given to go inward and find new hobbies or deal with things that need to be dealt with. When we finally have the space and time to think about ourselves, we don’t want to deal with cleaning up the whirlwind of our lives. The universe has probably given you this time off because for some reason, in some way, you really need it now.

Here are some tricks to dealing with time off when it feels as though you’ve got too much time on your hands:

Don’t get caught up on technology.

If you feel like you’re in a rut and you’re bored, chances are you’ll spend more time on your devices than usual. Put down your iPhone. Go outside, and stop worrying about who’s doing what on social media. It doesn’t matter; just go for a walk.

Don’t feel guilty for having time off.

If you’re on holiday, or perhaps you’ve been laid off, (no matter what the case is), be easier on yourself. It is okay for life to reorient you once in a while. The key is to surrender to the ebb, and learn how to integrate patience into your life. There are always ebbs and periods of flow in life, however society is so busy all of the time, that sometimes we don’t recognize the patterns of life. When you’re in the midst of ebb, keep in mind that flow always follows.

Create a new morning ritual.

In order to stay positive during your downtime, create a new morning ritual. Wake up at a certain time, (or if you really want to indulge and sleep in, that’s okay too! Just make sure it doesn’t become a problem and you sleep the days away). I like to wake up early, make coffee, connect with my higher self (while the coffee is brewing and the house is peaceful), and write. I write gratitude, I write stories, I write poetry, I work on my blog, or sometimes I edit work for my job). Creating your own ritual will look different for you, but the point is to wake up, express gratitude to create a positive start to the day, and do something that you love to do in order to connect with yourself.

Go out into nature!

 Going for nature walks is very healing. If you’ve been down on yourself for having too much time on your hands, go out into nature with the intention that something amazing will happen. At the same time, don’t have any expectations in terms of what that “something” will look like. Every time I go out into nature with that intention, I come back feeling totally rejuvenated. Sometimes I get to connect with wildlife and animals that we don’t see on a daily basis (because we’re too busy indoors). Others, I might run into someone who says exactly what I need to hear that day. And, if I don’t run into an animal or person, I simply enjoy the peacefulness that nature has to offer. Going outside really helps me connect with myself and de-clutter my body and mind from others’ energy as well.

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Find a new hobby or join a new group.

Whether you’re into sports or yoga, or anything else for that matter, join a group or connect with people who have similar interests. Meeting new people is always refreshing. If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, one of the worst things you can do is secluding yourself and becoming a couch potato. Go out into the world and make the most of having time off. Of course, if you’re struggling with mental health issues, I encourage you to see a professional to help you work through your struggles. Just know that there are lots of people who have gone through what you’re going through, or are going through it at the same time as you. You don’t have to go it alone. Connect with others, try new things, and do something you haven’t done before.

Most of us have been there at some point; so don’t be hard on yourself for having too much time on your hands. However, make the most of your time and do something constructive. Many people who’ve lost jobs, finished school, or have gone on maternity leave have ended up starting their own businesses and doing great things with their “free time.” Take the opportunity to contribute something great to the world.

You’ve got this! 😉

 

 

Spirituality & Spending Money

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Spirituality and money are things that people think about frequently, however, I think most often in regards to the law of attraction and thus attracting money. The idea is that you attract what you focus on, so people think that if you think about money you’ll attract money. It doesn’t quite work that simply though. Many people hold negative underlying feelings towards money: e.g., “money is the root of all evil,” or, “people who have a lot of power and money are most often evil.” These two beliefs are simply not true. Money is just a physical manifestation of the energy that we give out and receive in order to get what we want in life (material goods and services). However, these core beliefs often block people from attracting money. Refocus your beliefs about money, and about why you deserve money. Either way, the law of attraction with regards to money is not the main focus of this post. Rather, I want to discuss how some people think that in order to be “spiritual” you need to spend lots of money on “spiritual things.”

I constantly meet many people who are new to their own spiritual awakening, which is really exciting and always makes me feel really happy inside! I was there once, and I felt that all the things that were happening to me were just some crazy manifestation of my imagination. (It wasn’t, and now I’m farther along on my journey and I’m reaching new levels of communicating with spirit, guides, and source, which is really fun!) I understand what it’s like to see colours differently for the first time, or to see energies flying around the room for the first time! It’s really exciting and feels surreal. It really is magic in the finest sense. There is so much magic and wonder in the world, and unfortunately it’s often overshadowed by politics and consumerism.

With that being said, spirituality isn’t about having the coolest deck of tarot cards, or the largest collection of tarot cards. It’s not about who has the most expensive, most colorful yoga pants. Spirituality isn’t about spending all of your money on psychic readings and becoming reliant on others telling you how to live your life. There are so many amazing intuitive coaches and teachers out there, and of course I encourage you to go have an experience with one that resonates with you, as it surely will be a mind-blowing experience. It’s important to connect with other like-minded people when you are beginning your spiritual journey, as often it can feel like a lonely road where you begin to wonder if there are others out there experiencing the same things as you. However, there comes a time in your spiritual journey where it’s important to become independent. It’s important to recognize if you are spending money frivolously on readings, books, objects, and the like rather than taking your spirituality into your own hands.

Recognizing your own spirituality is about empowering yourself. It’s not about relying on others to tell you whether you’re on the right path or not. You can know whether you’re on the right track just by merely going inward and feeling the sensations of your emotions. Your physical body is a guide for you to understand whether you are in alignment with your soul and your current path. You don’t need to spend lots of money to realize where you need to be and what you need to be doing at a specific time.

As I’ve come to understand the world around me in new ways, I’ve also come to realize that it’s okay to not know where you’re heading. Although, as I’ve developed certain intuitive abilities over the last few years, it is most often easier to see where I’m heading and what steps I need to take in order to get to where I want to be. The key elements in understanding your own path are going inward, becoming objective in the way you view your life (which is sometimes really hard), and most importantly, being PATIENT. Everything that you desire will come to you at some point if you take the steps necessary to attain your goals. However, knowing when and how to be patient is so important in unblocking your desires from coming to you. Also, recognizing that there are many different paths to getting to where you want to be is important too.

You don’t need to spend money on lots of external objects in order to become more psychic. We all have these abilities. Whether you were born with incredibly strong intuitive abilities, or you are new to developing them, you have the ability to do it yourself through meditation and intention. Simply ask your guides to connect with you. You will be able to discern for yourself what medium is best for you to connect with your guides and higher self. For example, since I am a writer, I find that writing and meditation are the best ways for me to connect with my guides. Whether I slip into a meditative state in the shower or while I brush my teeth, or I actually sit down and meditate for a little while, this is one of the best ways I have found to connect with my guides and higher self.

Another important note: since I, like many people, either turned off my intuitive abilities as a child or was not born with super strong senses (e.g., the ability to see spirit), it has taken me a few years to develop these abilities. So be patient with yourself, because if your intentions are clear and you do the inner work, you can definitely develop your intuition (and probably faster than you think!) Time is accelerating, and people are manifesting things in their lives at a faster rate than before! A veil is thinning, and people are waking up. So don’t think that you need to spend all of this money on spiritual things and knickknacks to be spiritual. Simply create a routine for yourself where you have a certain amount of time each day that you dedicate to connecting with your higher self.

It doesn’t matter how you connect, what matters is that you do so frequently!

Namaste. ❤

 

Photo credit: my lovely husband. 😉

 

 

29 Things I’ve learned in My 29 Years on Planet Earth

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Wow! I can’t believe I have just entered the final year of my twenties. I’ve had an interesting journey, to say the least! I am grateful for every experience that I’ve had up until this point because I know that every moment and experience has shaped who I’ve become.

I thought I’d just share 29 things I’ve learned in my 29 years of life. Here goes!

  1. Life is what you make it. If you choose to see things through a sad, grey lens, you’re going to live a sad, grey life. If you choose to see things through a rose-colored, happy lens, you will have a rosy and happy life.
  2. People will treat you how you let them treat you. If you don’t like how someone is treating you, don’t let them into your bubble. Who you spend your time with is entirely up to you, so don’t let anyone rain on your parade or waste your time. (If someone isn’t treating you well, they’re wasting your time).
  3. Kindness always wins. Love always wins. They just do. No matter what you think.
  4. If something feels wrong, let it go. Whether it’s a relationship, a job, or a project, if it’s not bringing you joy or you’ve outgrown it, it’s OKAY to let it go.
  5. Like attracts like. If you want to be loved, BE LOVE. If you want that job you’ve always been dreaming about, jump into the vortex and start doing things that you would be doing in the role you’re dreaming about. It will come.
  6. Playing isn’t just reserved for children. Getting in touch with my inner child and PLAYING is one of the best gifts I’ve given myself as an adult. Playing looks different to everyone. For me, playing looks like writing, laughing often, being goofy, and having dance parties in the bathroom (or with my husband in the kitchen). Also, I love chasing my cat around the house like a six year-old. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s fun!
  7. On that note, don’t take everything so seriously. Of course, it’s important to take your work seriously, to take global issues seriously, and to pay attention to the important things. It’s also important to let loose and have fun. (I don’t mean drinking and partying, but if that’s your thing, cool! No judgment).
  8. Try to keep your life a judgment-free zone. It’s hard. We’re human, and okay—sometimes we judge. However, I feel that we’re too hard on each other and ourselves. Don’t be such a tough critic; whether you’re judging yourself or someone else, step back, chill, and make a note of where your judgment is coming from. Ain’t nobody got time to be a judgey budgie.
  9. People say, “Failure isn’t an option!” Uhm, yeah, actually. It is. We all fail sometimes, and that is okay. Without failure, we wouldn’t understand how to become successful. We wouldn’t feel SUPER proud of our accomplishments if things went perfectly 100% of the time. Failure challenges us to become better human beings, to become better at honing our gifts and talents, and it teaches us what we do and do not want for our lives. You can use failure as a tool for learning and growth.
  10. Don’t listen to others regarding your life path. If you have a dream or a goal in mind and you’ve got that internal voice just telling you to stay steady on your path, don’t let naysayers tell you to choose a different path. Who cares if your path doesn’t seem clear to them? Who cares if your ideas are “too out there”? Who cares if people wished that you did something else instead? Not me! Neither should you, because nobody knows you better than you know yourself. PS- Don’t tell others what you wish they would do. It is SUPER INSULTING. It says to the person, “What you’re doing with your life isn’t good enough.” RUDE. If it doesn’t directly affect your life, then it’s not your business.
  11. Treat your body right. Eat well; sleep well; do yoga or exercise; go outside; and mostly eat and sleep well. Oh, and alcohol generally makes me feel like balls, so that’s also something I’ve learned in my 29 years on planet Earth.
  12. A missed opportunity was simply an opportunity that wasn’t for you. There will be more and more opportunities for you, so it’s okay to miss an opportunity.
  13. Don’t compare your life to others’ lives. Everyone has a different path; so to compare your life to another person’s life is just going to drive you crazy. Who cares what so and so is doing on Instagram? Everyone has good days and everyone has bad days. Everyone.
  14. You DO have control over your emotional reactions. Nobody can make you feel bad. You’re in charge of that.
  15. Dealing with family can be difficult sometimes. It’s okay to take a step back and breathe.
  16. It’s okay to outgrow people and move on with your life.
  17. Travel is essential for learning about yourself and the world around you. I love books but you just can’t learn some things from books. Experiential learning is important.
  18. Reading is SO important. Your brain will literally shrink if you don’t get enough DHA and don’t read enough. Expand your mind, consciousness, and life. Also, there is so much secret wisdom in philosophy books that will let you in on all of the secrets of the universe. Philosophy isn’t boring and it’s not SUPER difficult to comprehend. It just takes time to learn and to develop critical thinking skills.
  19. You also have all the secret wisdom and knowledge the universe holds right within you. Yeah, seriously! We’re all psychic, universal beings who have the ability to channel information that most people scoff at. Years down the road, people won’t be scoffing anymore, because humans are waking up and perspectives are changing. We’re not all that is.
  20. If you want something, just go and get it. If you want it bad enough, you’ll make it happen.
  21. A plant-based diet is the best diet for my body. Eating plants makes me feel good and keeps me happy. Plants are high vibrational foods, so when you consume life, it gives you life. Your body is your temple. (I had to sneak it in there). It doesn’t matter what you look like. What matters is how you feel.
  22. I learned to receive and give Reiki. Reiki is life-force (universal) energy that can be channeled to heal emotional and physical wounds. It really works. Look into it!
  23. Gratitude is seriously the best attitude. The more you are grateful for what you have, the more (positivity) you attract into your life.
  24. Learn from your mistakes. Write your experiences down, evaluate them, and don’t make the same mistakes again and again. (I mean, unless that’s also part of your journey. As I mentioned in #8, ain’t nobody judging here!)
  25. Love people unconditionally. Even when it seems impossible to love someone because they might have hurt you or someone else, you can still muster some love and send it their way. Honestly. The world needs more of that.
  26. Forgiveness is essential in moving forward. You can choose to forgive anyone or any situation. Forgiveness IS a choice, and you can choose it.
  27. Alone time is essential for personal development.
  28. It’s okay for others to have opinions that don’t match yours. It’s okay if people don’t understand your perspective. At the end of the day, that’s part of what makes Earth colorful and interesting.
  29. Love yourself unconditionally.

 

That’s it! Happy Sunday.

Namaste. ❤

Self-Care Sunday

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It’s wintertime and sometimes it’s easy to let self-care fall by the wayside. I’m not going to lie— I definitely let that happen a little bit this winter, so I decided it was time to go treat myself to a pedicure. (Ain’t nobody got time for Shrek toes!) Self-care is different for everyone, but I just thought I’d share some of my favorite ways to care for myself and make sure that I’m feeling like a goddess. (Why not feel like a goddess every damn day?) For me, self-care isn’t just about manis and pedis, it’s so much more than that!

Treat Your Body Right

Consume foods that nourish your body. Sometimes in the winter, all we want to eat is comfort food. I’ve been guilty of making homemade vegan mac n’ cheez lately, but it’s important to keep eating those delicious greens. Even if it’s cold outside, remember to drink your green juices and smoothies.

Or, if you’re not in the mood for a green juice, one of my favourite juice combos that just gets me in the most high vibin’ mood is the following:

  • Carrots
  • Beets
  • Ginger
  • Lemon

It’s so simple, it’s not time-consuming, and it’s absolutely delicious! My body always feels amazing afterwards and honestly I never get sick when I drink veggies like this. Consuming lemon juice is a great way to keep your body alkaline, while ginger is great for boosting your immune system (and it’s also really good for digestion). Beets are great for detoxifying your body, increasing blood flow, and keeping your liver clean. They’re also a great source of minerals, so make sure you throw some beets in your juice! Carrots are rich in vitamin A, B6, K1, biotin, and potassium. It’s no wonder that I feel like bouncing off the walls when I have this juice! Vitamin B6 is known for being an energy enhancer; so if you feel fatigued or sluggish this winter, incorporate this juice into your life. You won’t regret it!

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Healing Techniques & Body Work

Regardless of what your belief systems are about the new age hippie lifestyle, treat yourself to some bodywork. Many of us put excessive strain on our bodies daily and don’t take the time to show our bodies gratitude for all that they do for us. Or, perhaps you sit in an office all day and have developed poor posture. Go take a yoga class or find a fascial stretch therapist to help you find proper posture and ways to carry your body so that you’re not aging your body before its time.

I really love Reiki (duh, I’m a Reiki practitioner), so I like to treat myself to a healing session from someone else once in a while. Reiki is a form of energy healing that involves healing from the inside. Basically, Reiki can be understood as universal (life force) energy. In short, a Reiki practitioner will connect with Reiki energy, source, or however you would like to understand it, and hold space while channeling Reiki energy through you to realign and balance your chakras (the main energy centres in your body). Reiki can feel different for everyone, but usually it will feel like your practitioner’s hands are heating up as he or she scans your body and allows the Reiki energy to flow through you. I always feel really rejuvenated and more balanced after a healing session. It’s definitely something that I would recommend to anyone!

Pedicures and Reflexology are also really wonderful treatments if you’re looking to pamper yourself on a cold winter day. We often don’t give our feet enough credit for all that they do for us. They get us everywhere we need to go, they carry the weight of our bodies, they allow us to stand and maintain balance, dance, and the like. Sadly, our feet are often our least favorite part of our bodies! Give your feet some love! You’ll feel so amazing after, I promise! (Side note: make sure you go to a clean treatment centre. Foot fungus is a real thing, and it is not pleasant. If you step inside and it doesn’t look clean, turn around and find somewhere else to go. For real!)

Whether you’re in need of a massage, Reiki, reflexology, a manicure, or pedicure, treat yourself to some bodywork. You deserve it! If it’s not in your budget, find practitioners in your area and inquire about doing an energy exchange or trade. Private practitioners are usually open to trading so don’t be afraid to ask. Self-care is important!

Bathing & Meditation

Meditation can be done anywhere at any time. Whether you’re on your lunch break at work, in your home first thing in the morning, or in your bathtub, close your eyes and settle your mind. Bring awareness to your breath and hold space for you to simply exist in the moment. Let all of your worries go. Stop thinking about politics, stop thinking about your job, your kids, a problem you’re dealing with, and just be. Be present for at least a few moments, and then you can continue with the rest of your day.

Bathing is so important. (Obviously! We couldn’t run around in public smelling like we live in 17th Century England!) However, take time to put effort into the way in which you bathe. Make it a ritual. Start or end your day with a luxurious bath. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man, a woman, or anywhere in between. Bath time is not simply reserved for ladies! Bath bombs are all the rage right now. They are a great way to add to your bathing experience, as they are often infused with beautiful flowers and essential oils. I would highly recommend reading the ingredients when you’re choosing your bath fizzies, as some of them aren’t necessarily made with all-natural ingredients. My general rule is, if I can’t pronounce the ingredient or if I know it’s not natural), I won’t put it in my mouth or on my body. I really don’t like using bath bombs that are super colourful because that means they were probably made with food colouring (which isn’t the healthiest choice). To each their own though! You can also add Epsom salts, candles, essential oils of your choice, and relaxation music to make your bathing experience tranquil and luxurious. You seriously deserve it!

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Anyway, those are some of my favourite ways to care for myself. If you haven’t given Reiki or bath bombs a try, be sure to! These are just little ways to make your life more enjoyable during the winter season.

Namaste. ❤

Protecting Yourself from Psychic and Spiritual Attacks

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Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation in which we have to deal with toxic people. I’ve recently written about this, as it’s something that has come up for me a few times throughout my life, and I’m certain that most people have come up against this issue at some point. With that being said, if you find yourself in a vulnerable situation, and perhaps you feel stuck in the energy of the person who is attacking you, there are some simple things you can do to protect yourself from being attacked.

Psychic and spiritual attacks can look and feel differently depending on how close you are to the person and situation, and whether or not the person is conscious of the fact that they are attacking you. If the person is unaware, perhaps the attack may manifest itself in outward situations, such as verbal attacks, arguments, or any confrontation that drains your energy. The person who is of a low vibration, with intentions of hurting you emotionally can perhaps even attract lower vibrational energies that may be unsettling for you to be around. There are many reasons why people attract lower energies, however if you can sense that there are lower energies around you due to psychic attacks, you can protect yourself. It is your right as a human being to protect yourself, and if you say that energy has to leave your space, by law it has to leave your space. No ifs, ands, or buts.

Tip #1:

Surround yourself with white light. Imagine that there is a tunnel of white light beaming down from the heavens or sky, and visualize it beaming all the way down to earth, through your crown chakra, and down a tube that runs through your spine out through your feet. Once you’ve visualized this tube of white light running through the core of your being, expand that white light through the rest of your body, and imagine cracks that allow the divine light to pour out of your body in order to fill the space that you are in. We are light beings, and it is your right to step into the light and hold space for love and light only. Again, it is your choice and your right to do this. If it takes you more than once to visualize this, that is okay. Visualization can take practice. Don’t beat yourself up if it takes you a few times. Just make sure that beautiful white light is flowing through every cell in your body and out into the world around you.

Tip #2:

 Once you’ve surrounded yourself in white light, create a bubble or orb of that light around you and hold onto that space. You are safe in your bubble, and no one can enter that space unless you allow them to enter it. Set an intention that only high vibrational beings and guides who have your highest good at heart-mind can enter your space (if you wish for anyone to enter your space at all).

Tip #3:

This one I’ve found to be very helpful, and it is something that a friend of mine suggested to me. Light a white candle in your space. White is the color or energy of purification and cleansing. Fire is also a cleansing element, so the two combined are a powerful magic. You will feel the energy in your space shift as soon as you light a white candle and set an intention for any lower energies to leave your space. Lighting a white candle is also a good alternative if you don’t have any sage or cedar to burn. This brings me to my next tip.

Tip #4:

Burn sage. You can find California white sage or Buffalo sage at most new age shops and even at some health food stores. If there aren’t any new age shops in your area, it is easy enough to order some online. Burning sage, or smudging is a Native American and Native Canadian cleansing tradition. This tradition has been used for years as a way to start the day, open a talking circle, connect with Great Spirit or Mother Earth, and to cleanse any impurities or energies that people wish to wash away. Cedar is also a powerful cleansing aid, and it can be found very easily right in your own backyard. Simply bundle it and let it dry out a bit. Your space should be cleared on a regular basis anyway, however if you feel that someone has attacked you physically, verbally, or psychically, definitely smudge your space and clear your aura. Once you’ve smudged, you’ll feel the denseness of the previous lower energy has lifted and cleared. I like to smudge my eyes as well, and to set an intention that I would like to see things clearly for what they really are.

Tip #5:

Another tip that a friend of mine suggested that has been really helpful in protecting my sacred space is to use salt. My partner and I just moved back from the UK recently, and so we’re staying in someone else’s home until the springtime when we move into our new space. As a result, we are not able to clear the energy by using sage as often as we normally would in our own home. So, (as strange as this may sound), I’ve poured a line of salt along the floor where the door separates our bedroom from the hallway. I’ve actually found this to be really helpful, as our room is no longer active at night.

The house that we’re currently staying in is quite active, however we know that the energy isn’t connected to us. Therefore, I continue to set intentions and state that all lower energies are to stay 50 feet away from us and are not welcome in our space. I surround myself in white light, listen to happy music, and dance, and I find that this really helps. Setting an intention for lower energies to stay far away from you will help immensely. You can tell them aloud verbally, you can write it down (I find that spell-ing it out is highly effective), or you can tell them in your mind as well. Generally I find saying my intentions out loud and writing them down is very helpful.

I hope this helps you, and if you have any questions about cleansing your space or protecting yourself from psychic or spiritual attacks, please feel free to message me.

Remember, you are a being of love and light and it is your right to step into the light and stay there.

Namaste.